What God Brings Together
Have you ever stopped to think about the way society portrays how to find a Christian significant other? Let’s look at some quotes that I have heard and seen that apply to the Christian community.
“Run as fast as you can towards God, and if someone keeps up, introduce yourself.” Have you ever heard that quote? If this is the first time you heard it, how did it make you feel? When I first heard the quote I thought, “oh that’s a good way to put it.” But as I thought about it more, I began to see how it could be taken as you should always be looking around for your significant other. You can see how this leads to constantly watching for a guy who may be on the same spiritual level as you. This is not necessarily a bad thing, but let’s consider some other quotes.
C.S Lewis has a quote that states, “a woman’s heart should be so close to God that a man should have to chase Him to find her.” I love C.S Lewis, he is a great Christian writer, known for the Chronicles of Narnia. If you have never heard of him, I would encourage you to look into some of his writings. Although I like his quote, I don’t completely agree with it. It sounds right, we should have such a strong and personal relationship with God on our own, and the man recognizes that about us. Yet, the quote seems to suggest the man is chasing God to find the woman, instead of chasing God to become the man of God he is supposed to be for that woman. I read on social media recently that the life you live, and what you do with it, is all training for the kind of wife and mom you will be. In other words, the habits you form now could someday be the example you will set for your children.
That way of thinking shows you life through a different lens, doesn’t it?
The last quote I wanted to include says, “She focused on God. He did the same. God gave them each other.” This one is my personal favorite, and I believe there is Scripture to back it up. I love how this quote has nothing to do with you or the man having to look around. In addition, it doesn’t involve you pursuing God with an underlying reasoning. This quote is solely both the man and the woman focusing on their relationship with God, and Him bringing them together in the end. Genesis 2:22 states, “and the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.” God brought the woman to the man. She is the missing piece to the man. Then let's look at Matthew 19:6 which says, “so they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” What do we learn from these two passages? We learn that God brings the man and woman together in the relationship. He fits two pieces together and makes them one.
So, why would you try constantly searching for someone that God will eventually just lead you to?
Therefore, there shouldn’t be a rush to find him or pressure of needing to find him sooner. God has perfect timing, and in the waiting, He wants you to focus on Him. This way, when God does bring you two together, each of you will have firm foundations in Him before building a life together. Since you will be “one flesh” with the other person, you can trust that God knows the right person you will be “one” with.
When I thought about these quotes, and how we should first focus on getting closer to God before anyone else, a picture came into my head.
I saw a girl keeping her eyes on Jesus, and the man who comes into her life is not standing in front of the view of Jesus, but coming beside her. In turn, they both look toward Him and walk the path God has for them, together.
What a beautiful way to live. The man shouldn’t be the distraction, he should be the addition to what you already have in Christ. When your mind and heart are focused on God, the right man will recognize this, since He has been doing the same thing in his own life. Therefore, he will come beside you, to walk forward with God.
So please keep your eyes on Jesus! He is the one who will bring you, and the man you are supposed to be with, together. He knows the path for you both, and will direct each of your steps to come together, at the right time. Trust God and focus on your relationship with Him first, knowing that when He brings the person into your life, you will fit together perfectly.