Does it ever seem like almost every girl around you gets attention from guys and you are the odd one out? This may even lead you to second guess if you are pretty enough, funny enough, or worthy enough to be seen and pursued by a guy. Maybe you are the girl who gets attention from guys, but only the weird ones or the ones that play games etc. If that speaks to you, it may leave you wondering if there is something wrong with you. However, what if there is a different way to look at this altogether? You may think that you are made for your significant other or soulmate, but you are truly made for the Lover of your soul! What if the Lord just wants you to remain hidden until the person He has planned for you is ready to be brought into your life? What if He wants to have an intentional season that just includes you getting to know Him as your Creator, Father, and Friend? As you begin to partner with God, you will notice how He prepares you and loves you better than anyone else can! That is a sweet perspective change, isn’t it? This very well can be a true intention of the Lord in your life!
In Revelation 2:4, God says to some people “you have abandoned the love you had at first.” This is speaking about all of us if you really think about it. First John 4:19 says, “We love because he first loved us.” God has always been the first one to love, cherish, and appreciate us! He affirms that we are created for Him (Ephesians 2:10)! Every girl wants a guy who will do anything to be with her and who will pursue her despite her insecurities, hurts, or faults. Every girl wants a guy who looks at her with love in his eyes. You know the beautiful thing about truly getting to know the Lord and His heart? You will realize how He, first, is all of those things that you are looking for. God loves you so intensely that He does not want anything to ever come between you and Him again. Therefore, He sent His Son, Jesus, many years ago to save you from all that was trying to keep you from Him - sin, death, and our enemy the devil. Jesus came on a rescue mission and died to defeat all that you think disqualifies you from truly experiencing a love like His! He pursued you all the way from heaven to earth! In addition, since Jesus is perfect, and sin and death could not hold Him, He rose from the dead so that you could have access to Him and live with Him forever! Yes, He loves you that much!
You are first seen, loved, and adored by your Creator and Father in heaven!
When doubts and insecurities start to creep in about this, remember to reflect on the gracious act that the Lord did personally for you out of His love! It is not about what you do or what you look like, it is about what God says about you and how He see you. He wants your heart in surrender to Him. He wants you to understand that when you believe in what Jesus has done, and ask for forgiveness for all the wrong you have done, you are made new in His sight! You are seen as forgiven and worthy in the Father’s eyes all because of Jesus! Therefore, I want to encourage you to shift your focus from all that you feel you are missing to all that you have in the Lord! In addition, if you ask Him to reveal His acts of love towards you throughout the day, He will provide little things that are His personal signs to you that show He loves you!
“God spoke today in flowers, and I, who was waiting on words, almost missed the conversation.”
-Ingrid Goff-Maidoff
God is always active in your life, and attentive to you and your feelings. Philippians 4:6 tells us, “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” God wants you to come to Him with everything! I would even encourage you to write down the little signs of His love, as they are pointed out to you, so you can reflect back on them when you get into a slump. What is so sweet about writing those moments, or any of your requests down, to reflect on them, is that it is like a little book that only Him and you know the deep significance of. God genuinely wants to brighten your day and see you smile, as you trust Him with your future and who He will bring into it.
Lastly, I want to encourage you with this, when you experience man’s rejection know that it is really God’s protection. He wants what is best for you! For example, you may think something is the best thing to happen to you, but then it doesn’t work out. This is when you need to remember that what God has for you will always be better than what you think is best! First Corinthians 2:9 encourages us as we read the fact that, “..no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love him.” This verse can apply to many different situations. We can think of this verse when it comes to a significant other and the life we will get to live with them. This verse can refer to the kind of work He wants each of us to specifically take part in for His kingdom. Or this verse can even get us thinking of the afterlife waiting for us in heaven to be with Him one day. And lastly, the verse can just open our eyes to the fact that God is so beyond good and kind to us that He has everything figured out. In return, all He asks from us is to love Him and believe in Him!
So, when you get caught up in what others have, or all that you are wanting/wishing for, remember that you can immerse yourself in God’s love once again.
He is your security, and will never be hesitant in showing His love toward you! The more you identify with His love and good plans for you, the more you will not waver when it comes to someone else’s intentions towards you. Remember the guy that God has for you will not leave you wondering or second guessing yourself, since confusion is not from the Lord as He only brings peace (1 Corinthians 14:33). But until then, do not forget that you never have to beg for God’s love! Keep your eyes fixed on the One you are made for!